Codependency. I have yet to meet one person that loves that word. In my experience, when most people have someone tell them they are “Codependent” they immediately begin putting up their defenses. Why is that? Well, I don’t think it has as much to do with other people, as it does with ourselves. When we hear Co-de-pen-den-cy, we may very well be asking ourselves, “Can – I – depend – on – me?” If I am unsure if I can depend on myself, or if I have lost sight of who I am, or who I want to be, by giving all of myself to others, or other things, then somewhere along the way, fear begins to set in. If I am living in fear, then I am not experiencing true connection; true connection with others, but most importantly, true connection with myself.
So what can we do when we find ourselves disconnected? Well, for starters, we begin to make time for us. If we have been in a state of disconnect for a long period of time, seeking help to better understand where to begin, is always a good idea. At Santé Center For Healing, we offer a wonderful 4-day Therapy Intensive Workshop called, “Free To Be Me: Rescuing Yourself From Codependency.” In our workshop, we explore the impact that the family system has had on our relationship with ourselves. We learn about common defense mechanisms, the role that shame often plays in our lives, drama triangles we tend to engage in, how to set and maintain boundaries, power and powerlessness, how we find a true connection, breaking free from drama triangles and incorporating self-care back into our lives again.
If you, or someone you love, has neglected themselves and is ready to live life again on your own terms, we would love to have you take part in our workshop! No matter what is going on around you, there is nothing better than to be able to exclaim, “I am free to be me!”
Lisa King, MS, NCC, LPC-Intern
Supervised by Sam Slaton, M.ED., LPC-S, MBA, MHSM
Intensive Workshop Therapist
To reserve a spot in our workshop, give us a call at 866-238-3154.